Before Sex and the City popularized the concept, I knew my close friends were like family members. Many of my friendships now have a decade or two of history… some even more.
Yvonne is one of my oldest friends. She is one of those women who could rule the world… with time left over to have a hobby 🙂 (Women should rule the world of course – but we’ll leave that topic for future posts 😉
We met in the first month of our university education so I didn’t have the frame of reference yet to fully appreciate how impressive she was. I do remember I was a little intimidated by her. She didn’t act like she was 18. She was so much more confident and pulled together than the rest of us.
We have now been friends for 31 years and counting… what is really incredible about the friendship is that we have lived in the same city for maybe 2 years of the 31… I blame her for my penchant for long distance dating 🙂
There have been many moments that have added glue to our bond but one of the first happened long ago, in our early twenties. She had a summer job in Lethbridge. I had a summer job in Calgary. So one weekend I went down to visit her. It ended up being a pretty interesting weekend… mostly because I lost her for a while and was the first person in Canada to understand some random Scottish soccer player with a wild Glaswegian accent. Hey, I loved Bill Forsyth films – and I didn’t need the subtitles! So by the time I got reconnected with Yvonne I was trying to make sure my new Scottish boyfriend wasn’t going to pick a fight with one of her male friends for talking to me…
But I digress… even though the Scottish soccer player falling madly in love with me just because I could traverse his thick accent is a good story, the memorable part for me was hanging out with Yvonne… and her declaration at the end, “it was so great to see you. I have met some people this summer but they don’t really KNOW me. You have been to my hometown, you have met my parents, we dated brothers from the same tiny small town in Manitoba (and we both had a girl crush on their much cooler sister)…
She taught me the true net worth of your life is the sum total of the relationships and the people in it. It’s the people who know you and participate in your life – in the good times and the bad – that give your life meaning.